9 Tips to Improve Your Relationships Starting Today, Read 7,8 & 9 To Improve Yours Better
Never take your relationships for granted–whether at home, at work, or with family or friends. Your happiness depends on them. You might think that fight from last night is over, but it doesn’t take long to realize that it ruined the next day (or possibly the whole week).
Relationships are one of the top causes of
stress. The positive effects of peaceful interactions are pure bliss.
However, the disagreements, conflicts, and harbored resentments can
knock you down and keep you there. Your body gets out of sync when
stress takes it hostage.
Follow these 9 simple steps to improve all of your relationships starting today:
1. Watch your words.
The
old saying “think before you speak” still holds true. Your impulsive
multi-tasking ways have caused your thoughts and words to jump out
unexpectedly. Slow down and ask yourself, “How would I feel if someone
said that to me?”
2. Respect differences and opinions.
Everyone thinks his or her opinion is important. Instead of jumping in
with “No! I disagree. You’re wrong.” take a minute to realize the other
person thinks it’s valuable. Try to respect what someone else is saying,
even if you disagree with it.
3. Look for the positive hiding behind the negative.
4. Pick your battles.
Every
disagreement does not have to become an argument. Silence has gotten a
bad rap lately. Speaking up and standing for what you believe in are
important actions to take, but sometimes they seep into other areas of
relationships and cause damage. Is this really worth a fight? If the
answer is yes, wait until the negative emotions subside before you sit
down and talk it out respectfully. Silence is truly golden when it stops
a ridiculous argument from ruining your relationship. Some
disagreements are just a waste of hu'rtful words.
5. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
You
never know what’s going on in someone else’s life. Things are not often
as they appear. You jump to conclusions without thinking about the
other side of the story. We don’t go around telling around everyone our
deep, dark secrets. Sometimes relationships are guessing games. We don’t
always get to see what’s going on inside someone’s head. When you give
someone the benefit of the doubt, and judge him or her on the brighter
side rather than the darker side, you can see the bigger picture.
There’s usually more to most situations.
6. Practice compassion.
Everyone
has his or her own personal history, dramas, and character traits. I
can’t be you for five minutes and you can’t be me. Let people have their
own past, as long as it’s not destruc'tive to your life.
7. Give compliments.
This
is the simplest and quickest way to change a person’s mood or attitude.
A compliment says a lot. Notice how you feel the next time someone
compliments you. It’s an instant mood lifter.
8. Say thank you.
Practice
gratitude. These two words carry a lot of power. Thank you says, “I
appreciate you.” Gratitude benefits the one who delivers it, as well as
the one who receives it. If you see something worth appreciating, it
means that you see the good. Grateful people are happy; complainers are
unhappy. Gratitude washes away negativity.
9. Value people.
People
are precious. Negative reactions cause emotional amn'esia. When you are
angry or hurt, you forget all the wonderful things someone did for you
in the past. You forgot when they gave you a shoulder to cry on, or came
over at 3 a.m. when you didn’t want to be alone.
Once
you realize how easy it is, you can make these simple steps a new
habit. Just like going to the gym every day keeps your body healthy,
strong, and rock hard, strengthening your relationships can also become a
daily habit.
Changing your perspective immediately improves the relationship. Your happiness depends on it.
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