If you continued choosing someone in this 5 ways, you will end up in a wrong relationship,Pls read number 3 and 5 well
1.You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ ll probably be unhappy and married , too. Marriage does not fix personal , psychological and emotional problems If anything, marriage will exacerbate them.
If you are not happy with yourself and your life , take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You ‘ ll feel better , and your future spouse will thank you.
2. You choose the wrong person because you get intimately involved too quickly .
Intimacy before the commitment of marriage can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues . Physical involvement tends to cloud one’ s mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions
It is not necessary to take a “test drive” in order t find out if a couple is physically compatible. If yo do your homework and make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible , you do ‘ t have to worry about it . Of all the studies done on divorce , incompatibility in the intimate arena i almost never cited as a main reason why people divorce
3. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problem and unhappiness.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ ll probably be unhappy and married , too. Marriage does not fix personal , psychological and emotional problems If anything, marriage will exacerbate them.
If you are not happy with yourself and your life , take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You ‘ ll feel better , and your future spo'use will thank you.
4. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character
Chemistry ignites the fire , but good character keeps it burning . Beware of the ” I’ m in love ” syndrome . “I’ m in love ” often means , ” I’ m in lust . ” Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person’ s character ?
Here are four character traits to definitely check for :
Humility : Does this person believe that “doing the right thing ” is more important than personal comfort ?
Kindness : Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s / he treat people she doesn't have to be nice to? Does s'he do volunteer work? Give charity ?
Responsibility : Can I depend on this person to the what s /he says s/he's going to do ?
Happiness : Does this person like himself ? Does s /he enjoy life ? Is s /he emotionally stable ?
Ask yourself : Do I want to be more like this person ? Do I want to have a child with this person ? Would I like my child to turn out like he or her.
5. You pick the wrong person because you expect him / her to change after you ‘ re married.
The classic mistake. Never marry potential . The golden rule is , if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now , don't get married . As a colleague of mine so wisely put it , ” You actually can expect people to change after they're married . .. for the worse !”
So when it comes to the other person's spirituality , character , personal hygiene , communication skills , and personal habits , make sure you can live with these as they are now
If you are unhappy and single, you’ ll probably be unhappy and married , too. Marriage does not fix personal , psychological and emotional problems If anything, marriage will exacerbate them.
If you are not happy with yourself and your life , take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You ‘ ll feel better , and your future spouse will thank you.
Intimacy before the commitment of marriage can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues . Physical involvement tends to cloud one’ s mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions
It is not necessary to take a “test drive” in order t find out if a couple is physically compatible. If yo do your homework and make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible , you do ‘ t have to worry about it . Of all the studies done on divorce , incompatibility in the intimate arena i almost never cited as a main reason why people divorce
3. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problem and unhappiness.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ ll probably be unhappy and married , too. Marriage does not fix personal , psychological and emotional problems If anything, marriage will exacerbate them.
If you are not happy with yourself and your life , take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You ‘ ll feel better , and your future spo'use will thank you.
4. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character
Chemistry ignites the fire , but good character keeps it burning . Beware of the ” I’ m in love ” syndrome . “I’ m in love ” often means , ” I’ m in lust . ” Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person’ s character ?
Here are four character traits to definitely check for :
Humility : Does this person believe that “doing the right thing ” is more important than personal comfort ?
Kindness : Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s / he treat people she doesn't have to be nice to? Does s'he do volunteer work? Give charity ?
Responsibility : Can I depend on this person to the what s /he says s/he's going to do ?
Happiness : Does this person like himself ? Does s /he enjoy life ? Is s /he emotionally stable ?
Ask yourself : Do I want to be more like this person ? Do I want to have a child with this person ? Would I like my child to turn out like he or her.
5. You pick the wrong person because you expect him / her to change after you ‘ re married.
The classic mistake. Never marry potential . The golden rule is , if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now , don't get married . As a colleague of mine so wisely put it , ” You actually can expect people to change after they're married . .. for the worse !”
So when it comes to the other person's spirituality , character , personal hygiene , communication skills , and personal habits , make sure you can live with these as they are now
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